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21 February 2015 @ 07:36 pm
Hey, menstrual cuppers! It's a new year (sorta) and we've got new members! It's really nice to see the community acting as a fresh resource for new and existing cup users.

If I could just ask everyone to take a look at the rules, that would be excellent. That includes new and old members. I've been observing some slippage on related topics and gender-neutral language on the part of both new and old members. The main thing is to keep this a civil and welcoming place for all cup users, so thanks for helping with that!

Hi everyone!  I've had a large Lunette cup for years and am looking for a replacement.  I like it, though I do find that it leaks.  I suspect that it's because I don't change it often enough (I'd probably have to change it every 2h or more on a heavier day).

Anyway, I felt that it was getting old/possibly contributing to me getting yeast infections and decided to replace it.  I wanted to try a cheaper cup so I got a Fleurcup.  I like the size and shape of it, but find it too soft.

Any suggestions of a cup similar to both of those but stiffer?  Ideally cheaper than the Lunette...  I'm in Canada but could get one shipped to Canada or the US.

Thank you!!

30 November 2016 @ 12:28 pm
I am currently toward the end of my first cycle using the Lunette cup. I love the convenience of it, but there have also been times where I struggled to reach it. I have a high cervix (I also think it's a little to the left instead of in the middle), and while I kept the stem on the Lunette for that reason, it did tend to take its sweet old time riding up into a comfortable place. I wouldn't want to cut off the stem of the Lunette completely just so I could reach the cup easily. It also seems really hard for me to break the seal on the Lunette by reaching up and doing the "hot dog in a bun" method and I end up have to grab the base and rock the cup back and forth slowly while pulling to get it to start to move down before I am able to actually break the seal and pull it out. If I mess with it while it's still sealed, I can feel it pressing on my bladder and it gets uncomfortable that way. I also get more cramps when I use it but I'm not sure if that's just my mind or the actual suction around my cervix. I slept with it in, and when I emptied it 9 hours later, I think it was only about half full (and I experienced no leaks which I was super proud of!), so I think the capacity is fine for me. I just think I need something a bit longer and maybe a bit softer? Or will the Lunette grow on me in my cycles to come? This community has helped me so much while partially getting through the learning curve.

Sorry this is so long but I appreciate all the help!
27 November 2016 @ 05:39 pm
I've been using a Lunette menstrual cup size 1 for about three months now. My period is always kinda light. However, my cup leaks 9 out of 10 times. It is only half full when I take it out. I've tried putting it low in m vagina, high in my vagina and somewhere in the middle. I always make sure it has suctioned by turning it 360 degrees and doing a wiggle dance, then feeling to make sure it hasn't folded in. I'm at my wit's end. Sometimes it won't leak and I think, wow, it is working. Then a few minutes later right before I take it out, it leaks. I'm checking constantly and I am so bugged. At first I thought it might be some blood that was in my vagina before I put in the cup, and most of the time it is, but then it will leak. Can someone please help?
23 November 2016 @ 11:43 pm
Hi all! I'm new here and just started trying to use menstrual cups (I've got the Lunette model 1) and like any newbie, I've run into frustrating problems. Reading the tagged entries for my specific issues has been very helpful! I still have a couple questions that remain unanswered, however. Wondering if you can help!

1) If you have a high cervix, will cups made for low cervixes still work well?

I ask because for the life of me, I can't find my cervix so am unsure whether my leaks are due to dangly cervix or something else, entirely. Sometimes I think i maybe found it low, but then can still reach my fingers extremely high up there without resistance which makes me wonder if it's actually really high and what I thought I felt down low is some other mysterious part of my anatomy. I'm trying to understand how someone can "go past" their cervix and it's making my mental picture of what's going on down there ten times more confusing, especially when I'm trying to understand positioning.

2) Is letting your cup open as soon as it's inserted fool proof whether your cervix is high or low, in keeping it from leaking? Does the cup naturally rise to hug your cervix even if you didn't position it any specific way? And if so, does it matter how you've positioned it if it's supposed to naturally hug it?

3) Did you all who have figured out the details of your cervical anatomy do that on your own, or did you get some of the info from your gynecologist? Are things like knowing you've got a tilted cervix information you can only acquire from a doctor?

I REALLY want this cup to work. There's just so many factors that it's making my head spin. I don't want to go back to tampons! They're just tempting because they're so much easier to use.

Thanks everyone!
22 November 2016 @ 01:08 am
I've recentely came across a new cup design and made in Germany (not yet released): the Merula cup.

At first it seemed quite similar to the Femmycycle but even though it has the same globular shape on the outside it does not have  the anti spill rim, so it's not an exact copy and I think it will please those who had trouble with the suction on the Femmycycle. The removal ring is also unique, very soft and flexyble and adjustable in lenght thanks to a ladder design. According to the information provided by de designer the cup will be available in colours: strawberry (pink), apple (green), sun (yellow) and mermaid (blue).

The cup does not have a website yet, but it does have a Facebook page and Facebook group (I have just requested to join out of curiosity).

Does anybody have more information on this cup? What are your thoughts?

17 November 2016 @ 01:43 pm

My body will push out the cup when it gets full-ish. (Often just under halfway full.) I have to run to change it before it comes out all the way and spills.

During heavy days, this can happen several times in an hour as one clot will fill the cup to between the 15 mL and 30 mL lines. Obviously this is a problem if I need to leave home or meet with a client, etc.

If I'm reasonably active, the cup will often settle into a position with half of it extruding outside of the vaginal opening.

I'm using a L DivaCup. I have children and I'm in my late 30s.

My cervix is average, I think. I can reach it but it doesn't seem "low" in the way that I hear that term used in this forum.

I'm already using one of the largest cups. I'm considering trying a SuperJennie because it seems wider at the base, but I'm concerned because it's softer. Any other suggestions? I couldn't find any threads discussing this topic.

15 November 2016 @ 01:39 pm
I've been using a cup for about six months now. I started with the DivaCup, and that's how I found this community because the DivaCup just didn't fit my body correctly. I liked the firmness of the DivaCup and had no leaks at all with it, but it was too long for me during actual menstruation while my cervix is quite low. Playing around with it when I didn't have my period taught me that a cup can actually be comfortable, but I needed something shorter during the time when I'm actively bleeding.

I found there to be a learning curve for comfortable insertion and no leaking. I had some luck turning the DivaCup inside out, but it was still too long for me to be comfortable. Once in a while I would get the perfect insertion where it would stay in place with no leaks and no discomfort for hours. I stuck it out knowing that it could be that way! I loved not having to carry pads or tampons, not dealing with the string or mess. And since my periods tend to be really irregular, I could start wearing a cup a few days before expecting anything. I tend to have days and days on end of spotting, and the cup was great for that.

The next cup I ordered was the Meluna Shorty - size large. While my periods are usually light, some months I do have very heavy days. I wanted something large enough to hold my flow, and short enough to fit in my vaginal canal without causing irritation. And the Meluna does fit these criteria. However, the material is much softer than the DivaCup and I'm having multiple issues with leaking and blow-by. I would really love to be able to put my cup in without having to wear a pad (I've developed a sensitivity to even unscented pads, and I haven't found a cloth pad yet that doesn't make me feel like I'm wearing a diaper). The Meluna does well on days when I am spotting. But once my flow starts, I notice that there is usually blood or other gunk in my underwear throughout the day that makes its way past the cup. And at night, I usually end up with major leakage even when the cup is only halfway full. I suspect that when I am laying down, the material of the cup does not form an adequate bond/suction to keep blood from flowing down behind it and making its way out.

That brings me to my question: is there a cup on the market with the firmness of the DivaCup that comes in multiple sizes so that I could find one short enough to fit comfortably inside me? I am 46 and have given birth twice. Thank you!
03 November 2016 @ 10:07 pm
Hopefully I am not repeating an existing question, I looked as best I could before posting.

I have been using menstrual cups for about a year now. I started with the ruby cup but it made my cramps worse, so I switched to the sckoon cup (supposedly one of the softest on the market) and they got slightly less noticeable. I still feel more crampy than when I am not wearing the cup, but it is not unbearable. It opens properly and I can get it in and out with no problems.

What IS unbearable, however, is that since about two months into using the cup, sex has been painful for me, particularly deeper penetration. Even my last pap smear was unbearably painful when it's normally no big deal. The gynecologist has already ruled out any infection/cysts/endometriosis and she honestly was not sure what the problem is. She said my cervix just looked irritated. She doubted it was the cup causing this problem, but I am worried because of the timing of when the pain started and the slight cramping when the cup is in. It's ruining any enjoyment of sex and I am worried about damaging my body. Has anyone else had this problem? What could I be doing wrong? Should I try a different cup brand?
I've been using a JuJu cup size 1 for just over a year and I love the convenience and not waking up in a sodden puddle of blood. But now I am about ready to give up as my last periods terrified me.

- I'm 30 and married, but he is severely disabled so I've never been able to have sex :'(
- I think I have a low cervix, as end of the cup always sticks out and I've trimmed the stem completely off and filed it smooth.
- I have very heavy periods every 25 days and have to empty the cup every 2-3 hours on the first three days, plus wear a super pad when it overflows.
- each year my cramps get worse, I had heard wearing the cup reduced them but not so for me.

On biggest concern:
- Last month I noticed the rough area at the front of my vagina inside (I presume it's the G spot), was huge, swollen and it protruded out of my vagina. Instead of being a flat wall it was like a cancerous growth about the size of half a golf ball sticking out, it was bright red, and irregularly bumpy and lumpy.
I believe this is because the end of the cup has been rubbing against this area irritating it more and more. lately I seem to be a bit constipated as the cup pushes against my rectum wall and so further restricting the space inside.
Once I stopped using the cup the swelling slowly went down But it still feels all bumpy and lumpy inside.

My old fashioned doctor thinks cups are evil so I can't talk to him.

I wondered if there was a shorter cup or softer cup if that might help, but I have a heavy flow so don't want to have to empty it every half hour. I also live in Australia and they all cost a fortune in postage. Any assistance would be MOST appreciated!!!

(BTW trying to post on here is so difficult! I've read the forum for a few years now. Please can someone make a step by step for non LJ users!)
01 November 2016 @ 07:48 pm
Has anyone heard of the Aiwo cup?
I found it browsing menstrual cups on amazon.
Normally finding a new random named cup isn't that interesting. This cup is different though.
It has a valve on the bottom to empty the cup while it's still inside you. I'm just wondering if anyone here has used this cup and cares to share about it. And anyone else that wants to chime in about this cup is welcome. Thanks!
31 October 2016 @ 08:57 pm
I was at my friend's house this morning and while emptying my Diva Cup I dropped it in the toilet. I have no idea when this toilet was last cleaned because it was absolutely filthy! There was crud all over the bowl and I honestly just thought about leaving it there but I didn't... 😷

So my question is should I toss it or can it be salvaged?

Thanks for any help!
31 October 2016 @ 04:21 pm
So I've been using the large Super Jeannie and love it. It's the right capacity for me on my heavy days and long enough that I usually don't have problems removing it. But the stem is so flimsy that I accidentally tore off the ball of it. Now the stem is a tad too short for me to easily remove the cup. I can feel it but and the base of the cup but sometimes have a hard time getting a good grip.

I'm wanting a cup about the same size but has a better stem. I know there are seize charts but thought I would ask you if you have any recommendations?
Hi all! I posted here once before and talked about my experience with my first period after having a baby. I've had two more cycles since posting. The first one, I didn't get the hang of using my large fleur cup until my period was ending. I didn't get another period for 2 months. I had never been so dissapointed to skip a period!

When I did get it again, my fleur cup worked perfectly! I had no leaks at all and only minor residual slobber. I got a third period exactly 28 days after that second one started so I'm pretty sure my period is regular again. The first period, I had some problems with leakage and determined that I have a dangly cervix that's tilted to the left. After inserting my cup, I run a finger around the rim and make sure my cervix is inside. I haven't had a leak since I figured that out. My cup has filled up 3/4 without leaking but I think I caught it just in time. I felt a weird bubbling sensation and ran to the bathroom to empty it. I'm pretty sure it was about to overflow.

It seems like my period is so much lighter since using a cup. It's still not super light but I would describe it as medium-heavy now. Either my cycle has changed since having a baby or it just doesn't seem like as much blood since I'm not changing a tampon every 4 hours. On my lighter days, (4 and 5) I emptied it once in the morning and once before bed. On my heavy days, I emptied it after 5-6 hours. I think I could have gone longer but I was at work and wanted to be sure I wasn't going to leak. How long did it take you guys to get the hang of knowing when to empty? I get light brown spotting for a couple days after and I'm not sure if I should use the cup or just a panty liner.

My fleur cup is clear and the holes are brown now - after only 3 cycles. I boiled it tonight for the first time and it looks cleaner but the holes are still stained. Any tips on removing the stains? I want to get a colored cup next for that reason. Any suggestions on a future cup? I would prefer it to be soft like the fleur and have a high capacity. Also, how do you know when to empty your cup? Do you just know your body and your cycle or do you feel it when it's full? I know this is long and riddle with questions. Thanks for reading and commenting!
28 October 2016 @ 11:15 pm
Info about me, I'm 25, no children, and occasionally to fairly active.
I've had this cup for a little over a year now. I ordered it because I wanted to try other cups, but wasn't really looking to spend $40. This cup is less than $20 on Amazon.com. At first, I didn't like it. I thought that the Fleurcup was my "goldilocks" cup. However, when my Large Fleurcup failed to open, and my Blossom cup failed to pop open... I reached for this cup.

The rim is much firmer than the body, which is a very slick silicone, the body is very soft, as is the stem, which is hollow. It opens very easily because of the firm rim and soft body. I usually use a punch-down fold, and it opened easily without any real work beyond insertion. I thought this cup wasn't for me due to it leaking once during my cycle. I was at work- which was the WRONG time for it to happen! It was full- the small size of this cup has a very small capacity, compared to other small size cups. The air holes on this cup I think also affect capacity. They are not all on the same level like other cups- they are in a zig-zag, some are higher and some are lower. I should also point out the holes are slanted downward towards the outside of the cup.

Removal at first I also thought was hard, I do not need to trim the stem of this cup, it does stick out a bit, however the silicone on this cup is slick feeling when wet and can be a challenge to grab on to with wet fingers. The silicone of this cup and soft body also make it a little tricky to remove- however- it also forms a good seal! I found that bearing down and "walking" the cup down or reaching up and pushing in the rim helped on removing cups with a firm rim and soft body.

TL;DR I was going to get rid of this cup since I thought it sucked, but it opens really easy and is super comfortable because of the nice soft body and silicone. I can be hard to remove because of these factors and it also forms a good seal when inserted. For less than $20, this would be a really great "starter" cup, or for someone with a light flow looking for a soft cup that opens easily.
27 October 2016 @ 04:00 pm
So I've been using a menstural cup for about 5 months or so and I think it is awesome. I'be read that some peoples' cramps have actually gotten better but my cramps have not changed and actually feels worse sometimes. I'm just wondering if I'm putting the cup in wrong (I don't experience any leaks) or I'm not the only one that hasn't experienced lighter cramps. I've always had a history of having really bad cramps whether wearing pads or tampons. I've been to a gyno and he suggested I get on birth control, which I really don't want to do, does anyone have any natural remedies for dealing with cramps?
21 October 2016 @ 09:08 pm
I'm on my 2nd cycle with a menstrual cup. I bought a Blossom and I want to love it. Had a few leak issues the first time around (rookie mistakes), but I've done better this time around. However, I'm now at the end of my cycle and I'm having AWFUL lower pelvic pain. Almost like really bad cramps, but even lower. It was localized to lower right side for most of the day, but now it seems to be more all the way across my lower pelvic area. Could it be too much air pushed into my abdomen from the cup? Other ideas?
I made an account here just to post for help. I'm really desperate.

This is not my first time using a menstrual cup. I've had a Sckoon cup (S) for several months now. Whenever it is my period, I try it on my first day. I've read all the tips here, and watched videos, and went to reddit too. Everytime I try it, it always takes me several hours or even a whole day (to wait for the soreness to subside in-between tries) to take out and it's always a horrible process! I feel like crying every time because I feel like it can never come out. IT'S STUCK INSIDE ME AGAIN AND I FEEL REALLY SORE FROM TRYING FOR THE PAST HOURS.

I'm 20, 5" and a virgin.

Here is what I do:
I use the punch fold and push it in. It hurts a bit from the entry and it feels really really tight. The cup proceeds to ride higher and higher up.
To remove it, I try to pull down the stem to grip the base. Nothing, whenever I grip the base it slips off. Everytime I try to insert a finger and thumb, the space is so cramped that it gets pushed inward. I resort to barely putting in one finger on the side of the cup, and push it around, I have tried to push it in all directions, I spend a lot of time doing this. I don't hear any suction break, but I'm sure I've squished it hard against the wall already. I try to grab the stem, which is so difficult to hold on to, and pull while moving it side to side. I do all of this while in the recommended position, I tried all, the one leg up, the lying down, sitting on the toilet, etc. I also bear down and keep my mouth open and try to stay calm. I pull and pull and nothing happens. I go back and try to squish the cup with one finger against the wall again, and squish it repeatedly. I pull and nothing again. I try to grip the cup, but I was never able to grip the cup with a hand. I've tried one hand pulling the stem, while the other tries to grab the cup. It's really tight in there and there is no way I can try to put a finger and a thumb inside without it being pushed inward. I also wipe my hand to keep it dry for better gripping. Really. I can't.

I have gone through this hell many times. How I always solve it in the end is I try repeatedly to push in an index finger of my right hand, then I push the index finger of my left hand on the opposite side, which is really difficult to do, and grab it that way, and it takes me many many tries to be able to do this.

I'm beginning to think that cups are just not for me.

I have a class soon and I don't want to go to class with this thing stuck inside me. I try to stay calm but after a few hours of trying it just makes me want to cry. But I am calm at first, I just start to panic when I've already tried everything. I wonder how other girls don't go through the same difficulty I am. I have done my best to follow all the tips.

I can't take it out. I don't want to keep using pads because it feels really horrible. I'm really going to cry right now. I feel so hopeless. God, someone help. Why is it stuck, I don't know. I've tried every thing I've read on this site already.

Help me please. T_T
20 October 2016 @ 06:50 pm

I have been trying to use menstrual cups for the past 4 cycles. I have 3 different cups because of all this trial and error. I am 38, have had a baby, and have a fairly heavy flow on days 2-4.
My 1st cup was a small Blossom (soft) and have since acquired the Luna small and large, which are a bit harder silicone.
So, this seems to be the case for me every cycle.. day 1 I get a good seal and no leaks but as soon as my flow gets going, I cannot seem to get that again. I am certain that my cup is opening all the way so I have tried finding my cervix, which drops significantly and sometimes moves to the side, and then place my cup low in my vagina and tilted toward my cervix.
Every time I get excited thinking that this time I got it. Alas, no. I have been bleeding all over the place and find myself having to reposition the cup 10-15 times a day on my heavy days.
I wanted to use a cup for environmental reasons, but with the amount of pads I'm soaking, laundry I'm having to do, and rolls of TP, it's definitely the opposite.
I really want this to work but don't know what I'm doing wrong! Please help!!!
20 October 2016 @ 12:37 am
Please help me, I'm so lost.
I've just purchased a menstrual cup and want to use it for my next cycle coming up- as I'm already on one and have had trouble inserting.
The first time I tried inserting it was difficult: Took me about 10 tries.
I didn't last 15 minutes before I took it out (and had a little trouble doing so-kinda made me panic) It was uncomfortable and pressing on some kind of nerve? It almost felt like a cramp itself. I couldn't sit down without being in pain.
Am I trying the wrong size? Then again I'm almost 17 and a virgin, anything bigger than a tampon feels a little big to be honest.
Current Location: Australia
18 October 2016 @ 08:45 pm
I have a couple of questions about the Diva Cup. I bought one today and I've been following the instructions but I'm not sure if I'm doing something wrong or not but is it supposed to sit so low? The bottom of it is just inside my vaginal opening and it won't go in any further. I cut off the tip to see if that helps because it was irritating me. I also feel like it's going to come out when I urinate or have a bowel movement. It definitely moves lower when using the toliet. I cannot feel my cervix when I try to find it but I'm not exactly a skinny woman, therefore I cannot reach that far into my vagina in the first place. Any suggestions? Or am I doing this correctly?
17 October 2016 @ 04:36 pm
Hi all! I've gone through all the size charts but the number of cups now is overwhelming!

I have a Diva size 1 and size 2. I'm in the age bracket for the larger size and have given birth twice, but I find larger cups push on my bladder and are uncomfortable. I suspect I squash them too as they tend to leak where small one's don't (except on my first day). I don't like them too soft as I'm not great at getting them to open. High cervix but I don't have too many problems getting my small diva if I bear down a little. I'm not sure I'd want it too much shorter though.

My diva's are close to my goldilocks cups. Size 2 on day 1 and size 1 the rest of my period (after day 1 they're pretty light and by day 2 I can usually go the full 12 hours if I really had to with room to spare). My large diva causes bladder irritation but I put up with it. My smaller one does too but after an hour or so it seems to go away.

I'm interested in maybe finding my absolute favourite though.

In the past I've tried Large Soft Yuki-too much bladder pressure, leakage
Small Yuki firm-worked well till I chopped off the stem and found it almost sideways (scary!) but was maybe a little too small, haven't ruled another one out though.
Icare-too soft, I rarely get it open.
Meluna-both soft and regular in small and medium. Couldn't open either of these no matter what I did.

I would love any suggestions to help me in my mission! I am wondering if a shorter but wider cup might alleviate the bladder issue? Also thinking a rounded end may not be the best for me given the bladder sensitivity.

ETA: Tossing up between a Luv ur body (small)
Super Jennie (small-concerned about opening this one)
and Lily Cup

Thank you!
I am hoping this isn't repetitive - I was having some trouble finding the answer.

I am contemplating trying a menstrual cup because I feel like tampons make my cramps worse (no idea if that's a thing or not but feels that way) and I can't stand the feel of pads. I am almost 31, have never given birth or had penetrative sex, and struggle with pelvic exams - like, frequently they use the pedi speculum, although I've gotten better. I don't have any idea if my cervix is high or low, but I do know it's tilted a bit. (Conversations I will be having with my doctor...).

Age and capacity wise I feel like a larger size would be better, and I have done the nuvaring before as well as successfully inserted a softcup (the disposable drugstore kind) although taking it out was like the shower scene from Psycho. But - again - GYN exams a struggle.

It seems from reading posts that the larger size isn't as big a deal as I initially was thinking. Is that true?
15 October 2016 @ 02:46 pm
Hi everyone,

I've used a Diva Cup for at least 4 years, a size 1 before I had my first child and a size 2 afterwards. I loved it and had no particular issues. I had a second child about a year ago and just got my period again. To my horror, I found that my Diva no longer fit as my cervix now seems very very low. I tried cutting off the stem and turning it inside out, which seemed to help until the cup slipped almost all of the way out of me. I figured I needed a different size and ordered a Meluna Shorty XL, classic firmness. I like it and it seems to fit lengthwise, but again, after a little while it falls out - like, ALL the way out!

My child's VBAC birth was pretty traumatic - a big baby in a posterior-facing position, so I ended up needing forceps. The partial 4th degree tear didn't do me any favors, but I regained good control of my muscles within a couple months. But now the instant I start to feel like I need to have a BM, the Meluna starts to fall out and I have to run to the bathroom. To be honest I don't know much about pelvic floor health, so I'm not sure if this means the muscles that control BMs are now stronger than my vaginal wall muscles or if it's a different problem completely. Is this an issue of me needing to do more kegels, or getting a wider cup, a different level of firmness, or what? Am I doomed to go back to tampons?

BTW, my period is super heavy for a couple days and moderate/lightfor a few (usually about a week total), so my preference is a cup with as much capacity as possible.

Thank you so much for your wisdom!
Whew, I had a hard time figuring out how to post; hope this works!

I've been using a MeLuna Mini (I guess comparable to the MeLuna Shorty M now? I THINK at the time it only came in their softest material) since January 2014, so I'm not a newbie by any means. I'm used to popping it in, changing every 12 hours, and forgetting about it. It's been wonderful.

Well, the past few cycles, my cup has started leaking 2-3 hours after I put it in. Not gushing, but more "spotting" I guess, that increases as time goes on. When it starts leaking, I take it out to change it and it's maybe only about 1/3 full. When I put it back in, it still "pops" out and seals around my cervix, seems secure. Well, for another 2-3 hours, that is! If I ignore the leaking, it gets worse and worse, and then I do seem to have an overflow situation? Maybe I need the next size larger Meluna? Thoughts?

-Nothing in my life has changed (sexual activity, pregnancies, etc)
-Periods are a tiny bit heavier but I'd still classify them as "very light"
-The blood DOES seem to be more watery lately, less clotting.
-I've been doing more physical activity (yoga/walking) and am a bit stronger; could I need a firmer cup due to PF muscles? Or could my cup be softer and not as "firm" due to the years of use/material wearing out?

Can you help me diagnose the problem? I've browsed the "leaking" category, but can't seem to find an answer. I seem to have a very small vaginal opening (I always have a little twinge of pain with removal) and probably a dangling cervix/shortish vagina?