20 May 2013 @ 11:43 am
Removal issues
I'm new to using a cup so i'm easing into it by only using it for a few hours at a time and alternating between it and pads, so I have some questions:

1. How can I get the seal to release so removal doesn't hurt? When I remove it, even after pressing the bottom and getting my finger over the rim it feels like my Diva cup is trying to give me a hickey. lol Also getting it in sometimes hurts a bit when It pops open, is there anyway to prevent that? The only way I can get it in is the punch down fold, if that matters. (the only other fold I've tried is the c-fold and that wouldn't fit)

2. How do I find my cervix and tell whether it's low or high? I THINK I found it and that it is on the front wall of my vagina, but i'm not sure if it'd be considered low or high.

3. Also, how can I prevent leaking? I thought it was just residual at first, and it might be cause it's not alot and my cup is catching the blood, but even after wiping away all the blood and changing my liner after about half an hour or so to see if it was residual I still had some leaking, so is there a way to angle it better to help prevent leaking?

4. And lastly, is normal that I can only get the cup in and out if I get on my knees? Is it like that for anyone else? Is it cause i'm a virgin, or...?
19 May 2013 @ 05:33 pm
Angel cup from Mexico
Hello fellow cuppers!
I've got to know about this cup a month ago or so but I never posted about it to the community as I thought someone else have done it before, however I was wrong. The Angelcup has been around for more than 6 months and no one has mentioned it!
It's a cup from Mexico, made in Mexico (not like the Mexican Lunacup which is made in the US) with medical grade silicone FDA approved. The cup has two different sizes chica/small (for women with moderate flow, who haven't had a vaginal birth or under 30) and grande/large (for women above 30, who have had a vaginal birth or with heavy flow).
For the pictures I've seen the cup is somehow similar to a Naturcup, with a longer ball stem and with a really flexible clear silicone. Both sizes come with measuring lines (up to 10 ml on the small size but it holds 20 ml up to the holes, and up to 15 ml  which holds 30 ml up to the holes), the logo of the company and their website on it. It comes whith a pouch of the company with the logo written on the outside and a pink ribbon to close it.
I've visited their website (www.angelcupmexico.com) and their facebook site (Copa Menstrual Angelcup) and they have a lot of information on their product but also on environmental issues, women's health, menstruation... I like the fact that they are really active trying to make people aware of the problems related with the use of disposables.
Even though this cup seems to have been there for months I couldn't find any opinions on the net besides this one (two post, arrival of the cup first and review after use later): http://vanir-lagom.blogspot.com.es/2013/02/angelcup-i.html  and http://vanir-lagom.blogspot.mx/2013/03/angelcup-ii.html. Both are in Spanish but Google Translator can do it.
Here a couple of  pictures of the cup from their facebook page:PicturesCollapse )


Any thoughts on it?
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19 May 2013 @ 06:49 pm
New to the possibility of cups
I'm 33 years old, but I have no children. I have been reading about the nasty things tampons can do to your body, like Toxic Shock. Apparently the way I wear a tampon is just asking for death because I have such a light flow I can get away with just 4 OB regular tampons my entire cycle. Buuuttt, I'm not supposed to wear them overnight or as long as it'd take them to full up. So I'd like to either switch to organic cotton ones or a cup. My gyno says that I have a pretty short vagina and tilted uterus (she comments on it every exam). Since my flow is so light and adding that to the fact of the short vagina and tilted bit, I figure I'll need a pretty small cup.

The research I've done in this community points me to a small or mini Meluna, a small Sckoon, or a small Lunette. I'm very familiar with my body and I'm not squeamish at all, but I really don't want to pay for a cup that won't work for me. Who here has tiny insides and can weigh in?
18 May 2013 @ 04:27 pm
New Brand-- FarmaCup?
Has anyone else heard of this brand, FarmaCup?  Wow the variety is almost getting overwhelming, huh?

But this one almost looks like a Yuuki in the body (just no grip textures at the base) and in the stem, it looks similar to NaturalMamma??  I believe its from Italy.  I can't remember...  How many does that make for Italy?  I could have sworn there were 1 or 2 others, lol.   Anyway, here is the website:

http://www.farmacare.it/Ep/Farmacup_coppettamestruale.html
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19 May 2013 @ 03:12 pm
Coconut oil as lubricant for lunette cup?
I've had a small lunette cup for a very long time now but I never really know how to use it. It has been in my drawer for too long and I just need to use it. I'm 20 and a virgin basically. I find inserting painful, like it wont go in AT ALL. I know where I'm aiming, I can insert an instead softcup easily (except it's way too big for me, I can't use it. I think I have low cervix).

The problem with the lunette is that I find the surface a little too rubbery it creates friction when I try to force it into my vajayjay. I wanted to try the ladycup because it's much smoother and might be easier to insert but I don't want to shell out my money just yet. I need to figure out how to use this lunette before I do. Is coconut oil safe to use on lunette cups as lubricant? I have the organic, cold-pressed & unrefined one (I heard it's safe to use for sex). Also, will using lubricant actually make a difference? I tried water and it didn't help at all.

Maybe a soft mini meluna or a small ladycup would be a better choice? Because I find it hard to keep the lunette folded, it's just too firm :/ what about the small sckoon?
19 May 2013 @ 12:39 am
Tester
I've seen people on here saying that they get these cups for free to test them out. I really would love to do that. How does one become an official tester? Thanks in advance! :)
18 May 2013 @ 05:18 pm
Can't pee with the Diva cup in?
Hey everyone, I'm 17 and a virgin and I just recently got a Diva cup and I tried it during my last cycle and had a little trouble, but I'm figuring it out. This site has really helped me, but I did have one problem that I haven't been able to find an answer to, I can't pee like at ALL with my diva cup in. If I try it feels like my muscles are trying to push the cup out and I'm afraid it will come out into the toilet or something. lol So, has anyone else had this issue? Would trying to push it up a little higher maybe help? Cause when I'm sitting I can still kinda feel the stem and very bottom of the cup.
17 May 2013 @ 01:00 pm
First use trouble
I've been researching cups for a while now and finally got my first one this week (size 1 sckoon cup). I'm familiar with my anatomy but am a virgin, and had trouble with getting it in-finally got the triangle fold to work, but it didn't open all the way and has shifted so that I can't quite find the stem. I can feel part of the cup when I bear down but am too tight to get a finger and thumb up there with the folded up cup to pull it out. How do I get this thing out, and how can I keep this from happening again?
Thanks.
17 May 2013 @ 02:14 am
First Time
So I ordered Lunette and it finally got here. I decided to try a dry run since it wasn't that time. The first couple times I tried the C fold which just didn't work for me. It would pop open before getting in. I then tried the push down fold which worked wonders. I got it in and removed it almost immediately without too much trouble. I waited a while then tried it again this time leaving it in longer. When I went to remove it later it had moved further in so getting it out was difficult with my short little fingers. I panicked too quick I think which made it harder. Any tips on removal for short fingered gals? I could reach the stem just fine but not the cup or base.
16 May 2013 @ 08:50 pm
Peeing and Menstrual Cups
I have a DivaCup, and it works okay. I've been using it since November, though I took a break for 3 months while I was on the ring (I just stopped using it). Peeing always took a little longer than normal while the cup was in. This cycle, I can't pee while the cup is in. It's painful if I try. Everything's fine if I remove the cup though. I'm guessing the cup is compressing my urethra?

Would this be fixed by getting a new cup? I'm definitely not against that. The DivaCup is too long for me. My cervix is very low-lying and I can find it during all parts of my cycle. This means the end of the cup hangs out a bit. Surprisingly, it usually isn't uncomfortable.

Any suggestions?

Thanks!
16 May 2013 @ 08:58 pm
Should I get a Meluna cup?
Ok so I'm not very sure what cup I should get. I'm 16 and a virgin. I usually use tampons and never had problems inserting them. I think I might have a moderate flow throughout, I can usually get about 4 hours out of a regular size tampon. Right now I can reach my whole middle finger inside and just touch my cervix (or what I believe is my cervix) but during my period it goes as low as about 5 cm in. I was thinking about getting a meluna cup since they are cheap and have a Canadian site that seems very straightforward. But I was wondering if I could just put the meluna cup inside a normal mug and then in the microwave for 1-2 minutes? I would get the sterilization cup but I don't got much money. I was thinking about getting the medium size. Would you recommend the meluna cup? Does anyone know any other cups at a cheap price that ship to Canada that I could also consider?
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15 May 2013 @ 11:23 pm
Cleaning Divacup pouch
I just finished my third cycle, and I'm very very happy with my cup. But I've got a question about the pouch, and I haven't seen *anything* about that anywhere, so I thought I'd ask. Cleaning the cup is easy enough, but what about washing the pouch? For some reason mine has got a mildewey smell--the kind of smell things get when they air dry but don't actually *dry*--and I definitely don't want to put my cup in there till that smell is gone. Can I just put it in the laundry in a lingerie bag? I make my own laundry detergent, but I still think the stuff in it (washing soda, borax, fels naptha soap) wouldn't be good getting on the cup, and therefore inside of me! Or is that not a big deal? I do wash my cup before each cycle, so it'd be pretty clean either way. I just know I don't want any mildew on my pouch or on my cup!
15 May 2013 @ 08:44 pm
I feel like the stem is stabbing me.
I am 26 years old and I purchased a Lunette size 2.
I only just got it today and I reinserted it 100 times. OK not really, but quite a lot until I put it aside, for annoying me too much.
I don't have a problem getting it in there or anything, I don't think. But the stem sticks out and feels like it is stabbing me. Honestly it's all the way up at my vaginal opening it seems to sort of hang out at an angle. So I push it up as high as I can and mess with it until it's hanging straight down. After about 2 minutes of wearing it, it seems to work its way back down and angle itself to start stabbing me again.

Any help getting this to work for me would be greatly appreciated.
 
 
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15 May 2013 @ 05:53 pm
Meluna STINKS, and I have a theory
Suuuper long-time lurker, first time poster. This community is amazing, and an absolute wealth of information, so I thought I'd contribute where I can!

I wanted to share my experience with a few different cups. So I've found at least two other posts remarking about the stench that comes from their melunas after barely 4-5 hours use. I've had a Ladycup, a Lunette, and the MINI SOFT MELUNA for a bit, and never had any problems with strong smells. The mini meluna would sometimes require slightly more scrubbing, but it would go away pretty quick. I thought I was safe.

I WASN'T

So the mini meluna was great, and I was so impressed with the soft squishy cup and the ball end that I figured I'd order some bigger ones for my heavier days. I also figured they'd be essentially the same cup as my mini, just in a different shape. But it isn't!

I know they list their "main ingredient" as TPE, but I feel like they may have changed something in the new moulds when they released their new line.

I think the minis were/are still using the original line's materials. The inside of my soft mini is very smooth, and feels like silicone. It's REALLY squishy.

When I got my medium soft meluna, it wasn't the same at all. There was a mark along the rim (from the machine, apparently), the cup was stiffer, and the inside isn't smooth. When I run my finger around the inside of the cup, it feels rougher, and I think it has something to do with the material.

Long story short, my mini soft meluna is just fine. I took my medium meluna soft for a run today, and after a single use it smells. Like GOD AWFUL smells. I've tried wiping it down with rubbing alcohol and that seems to have helped it a bit, but I don't think I'll ever be using the damn thing again. I also have a small regular meluna, and I'm now afraid to even go near it.
15 May 2013 @ 05:06 pm
Since I didn't get any responses to a comment of mine in a very old topic, I'm gonna try it with a new post. By the way, I didn't know "vegetarian/vegan" is also a tag here.. does it even make a difference when it comes to menstrual cups? (Because I'm a vegan.)
And yes, I am aware there are some related topics but those didn't really help me (and everyone's lady bits are individual, right? :) )

So here is it:
I have a feeling that I "crush" my cup (MeLuna classic, size m). At least it looks squished when I pull it out after exhausted trying of placing it right. I already wrote to the MeLuna support whether I need a smaller or/and a firmer size or should simply try harder but didn't get an answer so far. According to their size chart I should use m (even without the sport issue I get nowhere near s).

But I really seem having problems with placing the cup right since it just doesn't want to suction (sorry, I don't know if that's the common word for it or even a verb) and, like I said, it looks squished which makes me believe that the cup might be a bit too large or too soft. Has anyone had this problem, too, and then tried MeLuna sport?! If so, did it work out better?

Also, my problem is that I don't know anything about my anatomy down there, e.g. if my cervix is low (heck, I didn't even know a cervix could be low/high) or if I have any kind of dysfunction/malformation. I only know - avoiding TMI - that I really might be 'literally uptight'. Or is it normal for a woman to be tight, especially without lube and stuff?! ('Cause I've read of some women who cannot seem to insert the cup without any lube.)
When menstruating, I use the smallest tampon size (mini) every day and I don't need to change it for a few hours. And even with that size I don't feel very comfortable. I don't know if that's of any relevance but it surprises me a little. (Sometimes I use a bigger tampon but that's rare.)

And - but I'm not very sure - I think the cup fit the first time I tried it on/in ;) (first day of menstrual cycle, actually). Or I was yet too unexperienced to check it accurately because the second time/day it seemed to leak (A LOT.. it was like I didn't use any vaginal sanitary products). Does this maybe mean that my cervix somehow "moves" during the menstrual cycle? (Seems to be common, too. Like I said I didn't even know any of this.)

I already tried at least two kinds of folding, different positions, squished here and there, put it back and forth, but when I start pulling the cup out it works without much difficulty (but it shouldn't, at least I think so). And sometimes it seems to finally start 'sucking' somewhere near the entrance. (But that's too low/uncomfortable.)
And it's also the squished look that really makes me wonder. (Maybe I even overcooked the cup? Or it's broken? I don't know..)

What do you think? Does anyone have suggestions? With my next menstrual cycle coming up I'd like to read some suggestions before buying a new cup. I'm thinking about getting MeLuna classic s or even MeLuna sport s but I'm afraid they might be useless, too.

Oh, I forgot two things:
- No virgin, no birth, sexually active
- The first time I unpacked the cup I got scared. Could also be a sign for wrong size? ;o Although most other women probably are surprised the first time, too.
14 May 2013 @ 11:57 pm
Another "is this normal?" post
I'm in the middle of my first period using a cup - a small Lunette cup to be specific. I really love the experience so far! I'm still getting used to some things, though, and I'm not sure if I'm doing something wrong.

The first is that I'm not entirely sure if my cup is not popping open all the way. I feel a suction when I'm pulling it down and when I stick my finger in it seems mostly popped out, but I'm just not sure about the section pressing against my pubic bone. I'm using the pushdown method with the pushed-in part facing down, towards my rectum. That side seems to pop-out fine, but when I feel around, it feels like there's a little dent when I dig towards the top. Is that normal, or should I be finding a stronger cup that pushes back against the pubic bone more?

I'm also experiencing a bit of spotting. The cup is literally nowhere near full, so I'm wondering where it's coming from. Could it be coming from the pubic bone dent? Or could it just be gunk that was sitting below the cup?

Finally, and perhaps most importantly, I have a history of urinary discomfort and I'm a little concerned about how this could affect it. I feel like there's a pressure or sudden twinges of stinging in the first hour or so that it's in, before it's really settled in I guess. I moved away from tampons to help the general health of my vagina, but I never considered that a cup might not be the best for urinary problems. Anyone else use cups and have these problems? Any suggestions?

TIA!
14 May 2013 @ 10:33 pm
Pictures of my first cup
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I was a bit disappointed that the pretty box got squished in the mail, but furthermore, I love it. It now comes in a pretty purple bag which is different from the denim bag I saw on the online pictures.

It's MUCH smaller than I'd expected. I can't wait to try it out when I get my period. The punch-down fold looks the most comfortable.
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14 May 2013 @ 09:33 pm
Small or large Fleurcup?
Hi, I am a 28-year old virgin, and I have used a small Fleurcup before. My periods are moderately heavy. There were a few times when I was using my small Fleurcup but leaked suddenly and dramatically in the night. At those times the cup was never full. I also usually leaked a bit in the daytime, not in such large volumes and not worse than with a tampon, but I still had to be vigilant. And I wouldn't dare to wear white! Apart from that I was comfortable with it: when I first got it I cut the stem a little shorter, but otherwise it suited me. I am very active as a runner and dancer.
My cup got lost so I need to order another. I am wondering whether it would be sensible to change to a large Fleurcup - would that prevent the nighttime floods?
14 May 2013 @ 01:35 am
Unsure of which cup to get :c
Hi everyone.

I really hope someone can help me out or at least give me a few tips on this. I am 27 and have never given birth. Reading up on the different cups I decided to buy a Large ladycup thinking it'd be the right one for me. Turns out it was too big. It wouldn't fold out and it hurt so bad. I tried with lube and every fold technique, NOTHING. So I then went and bought the smaller one... which fits and actually folds out, unlike the other one... but I am really uncomfortable using it because it seems like it "disappears" really far in over time and gets sorta errr... "stuck". Reaching it is really hard, I literally have to grab the end of the stem with my finger nails and slowly wedge it far enough down for me to get a good hold to pull it out. And this is after having pushed for ages with my actual vagina to get it to move down a little and sitting in an odd position on the toilet. Other than that, which kinda scares me everytime cause I think I'll never dig it out again, I'm very happy with the cup :(

It really bothers me because I love the concept and I want it to work for me. I don't want to waste anymore money on cups that don't fit or just aren't "right" for me. And seeing as I'm sure someone around here will have more experience than me... for the love of god, HELP!

Would getting a longer or more narrow cup do the trick perhaps? Or one with a longer stem? Which cup on the market has the longest stem but still has a small ish cup like the small ladycup has? I'd really appreciate it if someone could help me. Thanks in advance!

Sophie.
13 May 2013 @ 10:05 pm
Do I have a high cervix?
Gosh, sorry for posting so often. I just have lots of questions and no one to ask them to, and everyone here is so understanding!

So I've been wanting to try a MoonCup but I haven't ever actually inserted something into my vagina before, and was actually kind of confused about the anatomy of 'down there'. I've never used a tampon before and have always assumed I just didn't have the right body shape for one, that there was perhaps something wrong with me. Today, however, I managed to insert one finger, in the squatting position. It didn't hurt at all, which surprised me. I got my whole finger in there (I have famously long, thin fingers) and only stopped because I reached the end of my finger. I THINK I felt a wall at the end, but I'm not sure.

I'm fifteen and a virgin. My questions are:
-Is it likely that I still have my hymen?
-Do I have a high cervix (I'm coming to the end of my period, and I thought squatting lowered it)?
-This might sounds silly, but isn't it kind of dangerous putting un-sterile objects inside our bodies? I mean, I know that's how we bring new life and all, but it seems like a fast-track way to infection (by un-sterile, I mean my finger I guess).

Thanks.
13 May 2013 @ 01:56 pm
Sckoon Cup Review
Hey everyone, I thought I would share my Sckoon cup review here with you all.  I know it is waaaayyyyyy overdue, but I have just been stretched so thin with a lot of activities, lol.   Anyway, I put up a video and pictures and all.  Even a picture of the opaque pink one they sent me a few years ago as their "rough draft" so to speak.  Its not offered anymore, but its interesting to look at.   Here is the review:

http://menstrualcupinfo.wordpress.com/sckoon-cup/
13 May 2013 @ 04:07 pm
NaturalMamma review
NOTE TO READERS: I got my NaturalMamma as a promotional cup, and I promised a review in a menstrual cup community.  Please note that the promotional value of the cup has not affected this review.

I've been through several cups in the past few (maybe 5?) years.  I started out with the Lunette, back when there was only one size (which later morphed into being their larger size).  I liked the softness, I cut off the entire stem, but it was too wide and too long for me.

I then moved on to the small Diva, which I again cut off the entire stem of, and it was more comfortable, but again, the end of it stuck out of my vagina just slightly.  I didn't need the capacity, so off I went again, off to look for my Goldilocks cup.

I got a small Lunette Selene, which I loved dearly...until I got an IUD, and it began to leak.  Sadness, because I loved it.

When I heard about the NaturalMamma, and saw the bell-shaped picture that I'd had so much luck with, I decided to take a chance on it.  I'm SO glad I did!

I've never received a sample cup to write a review before, but I was running short on funds, and I thought it was a valid reason to ask for one.  I contacted the maker and asked if I could get a sample of their cup to review.  After a brief language barrier issue (Italian to English), she sent me one.

I got a white/clear cup - I just noticed on their website that they are now offering it in a pale green color, too.  It came in a white (!) zippered polyester pouch, lined in a waterproof...vinyl, I think.  The pouch had some slight dirt on it when it arrived, but I got it out with a Clorox bleach pen.  This is the first cup I haven't had to trim the stem on AT ALL, and it doesn't bother me.  The bell shape is ideal for me, and the slightly stiffer-than-Lunette material has completely stopped all my leaking issues.

Overall, I'm super happy with it, and it's the only cup I'm currently using.  I love it!
13 May 2013 @ 09:14 pm
First experience with a cup
Hi :)

I'm 16 and a virgin. I recently bought a menstrual cup (the Mpowercup). I bought the large one as I have a very heavy flow - by heavy I mean, I have to use super sized tampons AND a really long, thick pad so that I don't leak. I really hate how uncomfortable it is.

I was a bit skeptical about the cup idea because it looked huge on the videos and pictures I'd seen online but I have used tampons and I masturbate often so I decided I would buy one.

My period passed two weeks ago and so I couldn't use it then, so today I decided to do a dry run. I sat on the toilet, did a punch-down fold with my cup (it looked the most comfortable) and then I slowly inserted it. It felt weird for a few seconds inside. I couldn't really feel the stem and I made sure it was fully open and the rim was against the wall of my vagina. I tried sitting on a flat surface to see if I could feel it and I guess I was successful because I couldn't feel it so much either.

Then I wanted to take it out...

Oh my, was it uncomfortable. I reached for the stem and pulled down, but it felt strange and it was difficult. So I put my thumb and index finger in to hold the part above the stem and pushed down on it and I could feel what I think is my cervix at the rim of the cup( it didn't hurt or anything, but I could feel it). I am having trouble trying to figure out if my cervix is low or high.It came out but the rim pushed against the bottom of my vagina entrance (where I think my hymen is but am quite uncertain) and it hurt! It felt like I was stretching it (like sometimes when you masturbate and you try three fingers but it just won't work).

So I decided to try again after masturbating ( so it could be more lubricated). This was probably not the best idea because it was difficult to get it in as my vagina walls were swollen inside due to masturbation (I've read tons about the female anatomy but still can't figure out my own anatomy). I tried to pull the cup out then and it still hurt the bottom part of my vagina entrance.

I'm hoping it will be easier to insert and remove it when I actually have my period but does anyone have any tips for me on how to stop it from hurting. As well as any other tips for a first time user.
13 May 2013 @ 06:00 pm
Strange bulge where I think my vagina is
I only joined yesterday and this is my second post already, so sorry about that. I'm sure some of you may have read my last post, but basically it was about the fact that inserting a cup (I stupidly bought a MoonCup, not realising how many other options there are) seems completely impossible.

Anyway, I tried what some of you said and had a look in a mirror. I couldn't see too well, because I only have a small hand mirror, and I don't shave or anything, plus the lighting was pretty odd so I had to use a torch (I certainly won't be telling my best friend what I used the book lamp she got me for my birthday for...), and therefore I had a very sketchy view, but from what I could see, I seem to simply have a bulge where my vagina should be. It's like there's a hole, and then a sort of fleshy lump protruding from the middle of it. It would make it completely impossible to get anything in there. It hurt a little when I pressed on it. I have no idea what it is - my hymen, perhaps? I don't even know what it should look like. It seems to be just a fleshy mess down there. I can feel this bump when I wipe (I'm so sorry!) and have so for about a year, which adds to my feeling that it could be my hymen, as I've heard they can get thicker during puberty? Whatever it is, it's getting in the way, and if it's not my hymen then I don't know what it is and that scares me. If it IS my hymen, then what would I do about it? It seems pretty unmovable. I don't know how I'd get my cup in there.

Sorry this is a little off topic, but everyone on here has been so friendly and un-judgemental, unlike the rest of the internet, and I feel more comfortable addressing this to you on here. Could anyone give me some advice on anything, please?

Thanks.
12 May 2013 @ 08:26 pm
THAT is simply not going to fit up THERE
I'm fifteen, a virgin, and I bought a MoonCup yesterday (size B, of course). I tried it this morning, although I am coming to the end of my period. I just sat there on the toilet look at it and thinking, 'How the hell is THAT supposed to get up THERE?' The rim alone is enormous. I've never used a tampon before. I feel like there's something wrong with my vagina; I can't get a finger up there. Maybe I'm pushing in the wrong place, I don't know, I'm afraid I'm not greatly educated about 'down there': most of my knowledge genuinely comes from the description of female sex organs in Anne Frank's diary. I still have no idea what most of it is though. I'm fairly sure I know what the clitoris is, but what is the vulva, the labia? I'm completely confused and this is just not helping with insertion. I seem to have lots of little fleshy flaps and completely disorganised wads of skin or something. Am I abnormal? I'm partly scared to push my fingers in there because of my fingernails.

I don't know. I'm confused and don't understand how it would be physically possible to get anything in there at all, forget getting a baby out. Could someone please give me some advice? It's not that it would get stuck, it's more that I just meet a fleshy wall and it doesn't exactly hurt, it's just not going to go any farther and it seems futile to try.

Thanks. I just don't want to use pads for the rest if my life.