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21 February 2015 @ 07:36 pm
Hey, menstrual cuppers! It's a new year (sorta) and we've got new members! It's really nice to see the community acting as a fresh resource for new and existing cup users.

If I could just ask everyone to take a look at the rules, that would be excellent. That includes new and old members. I've been observing some slippage on related topics and gender-neutral language on the part of both new and old members. The main thing is to keep this a civil and welcoming place for all cup users, so thanks for helping with that!
I'm so aggravated I just want to cry. I bought a Ruby medium cup a few weeks ago and had to wait for my next cycle. Today was the first day of my cycle and I've tried all evening to use my cup without success. I'm 40 with one child. I've watched the videos and read a lot of guides. I'm able to fold it and insert is successfully, sort of horizontal, it pops open completely and the stem sits just inside my vaginal opening. I can rotate it freely all the way around. BUT I can feel it, all the time. I can't stand it and hate it. It's not painful, but I can definitely feel it. I've read a lot of comments that you have to get used to it and after awhile you forget about it, but I honestly don't see how. It's like having a golfball in my vagina, I really don't see how you can not feel it unless you get one that's very soft and squishy. I can't afford to purchase another one so I'm afraid I'm just stuck with this one right now.
Hi friends,

I just saw a medical article recently published in 2015 about a woman who had toxic shock syndrome while wearing a menstrual cup. Scrolling through the comments below the article, there were some people mentioning they have had TSS symptoms while wearing a menstrual cup. One user specifically mentioned it was because despite boiling the cup and cleaning it out, the little suction holes still had dried blood in them which harbored the bacteria. Now I am freaking out a little bit..does anyone know anything about this? Are big brands like DivaCup, MeLuna, and Lunette advertising that cups have no association with TSS when really they're not entirely sure or may?


Also...here is the link to the paper and article

hopefully im making this right! ive never posted on livejournal before (i made an account just for this) but i bought a small ruby cup a few months ago, ive been using it for maybe 2 or 3 months now and no matter what i do it doesnt seem to catch everything. i am SURE it is sealed completely, every time i check its opened completely and every time i remove it i need to break the seal. it does catch most of my blood but sometimes (usually) ill get spotting when i wipe and it will be outside the cup.

another issue ive been having is that it always feels like i have to pee. i already pee a lot as it is (i think i have a small bladder) but it seems to be putting pressure on my bladder and i even have had to remove it completely in order to pee once.

also, no matter how deep i insert it it always seems to end up very close to the entrance of my vagina. i have completely removed the stem because of this and tried inserting it multiple different ways. i usually use the 7 fold. if anyone has any advice for any of these issues i would be so grateful. i really want cups to work for me.

14 July 2016 @ 06:35 pm

Hey all!

I'm really new to cups (haven't even gone through one cycle with them yet) but I am optimistic amd have high hopes.

But I'm looking for advice on how to introduce my little sister to them. She's 13 and a virgin but I think she would be a good fit for using cups. I've got 10 years on her, have a kid, and am very comfortable with my own body. I want to get a few notches on my belt before bringing it up but advice on what to say or if I should wait longer since shes so young? She's only ever used pads as far as I know (that's all my mother has bought her although she's not sheltering by any means).

Thank you in advance!

14 July 2016 @ 04:32 pm
Hi, all!

Here's my situation:

I bought a Meluna classic medium a few months ago. On every cycle there are a few days (of heavier flow) that the cup leaks, even though the cup is fully open and forms a vacuum, and when i remove the cup it's not full.
Could it be that the cup is too soft?
When i insert the cup it never pops open by itself, i need to "help" it to fully open, but once open it does create a vacuum.
Should i purchase an harder cup? I was thinking about getting a Yuuki classic.

Any advice would be helpful.

Thanks :)
09 July 2016 @ 08:02 pm

Today I attempted to insert my cup (small Lunette) for real this time as i spent much of my last period learning how to hold the cup properly and how to relax my muscles down there at will. I seemed to be getting the hang of both, and thought they'd help a ton in finally using the cup once and for all.

Unfortunately, I ran into a new problem. Whenever I inserted the cup, I would feel pain wherever the tip touches. It's not enough to make me flinch, but it is enough to make me worry about how painful the suction/seal would be if I let go, to the point of me being somewhat afraid to let go of the cup when it's in. The exact feeling is hard to describe, I can best describe it as it being somewhat... scratchy, I guess? Either way I don't know if this is normal and  after a somewhat traumatic experience involving a Femmecup's suction (that left me afraid of using cups for two years) i don't really want to risk letting go only to be subjected to a ton of pain.

I don't know why the pain is occuring or how to stop it. Just before inserting the cup, I checked around for my cervix with my finger (and I have somewhat long nails too) and felt no pain. I've even been able to insert an Instead Softcup without feeling much aside from just "knowing" it was there. I don't understand why this only happens when I try a reusable cup, if anyone knows or has advice it'd be much appreciated...

If it helps, I always use the punchdown fold, with the larger part of the fold facing to the side.

09 July 2016 @ 06:56 pm

I bought a Lunette size 1 cup couple cycles ago. I really liked it! But... It's too small for days 2-3 and night 1-2. I can have it like 9 hours at work, but when I get home and break the seal blood runs everywhere. So maybe 7-8 hours would be better. I don't want to empty it at work when it's just me and my mum until I move to study in an university, and she was against using a menstrual cup. At night the same problem also. I want it most for nights that I can sleep without worrying of leakage.

How different is the size 1 and 2? I know the size 2 is bigger, but is there someone that has them both and could tell me the difference in usage. I'm 22 and virgin. I have only used pads, but I wanted something else to use and I didn't want to use tampons.

I'm scared that the size to is to stiff and big. I haven't cut the stem on size one at all. I do have problems to get the size 1 to pop open. I use a seven fold and when I insert it and try to open it, it wants to make a C-fold. I fiddle with it until I get it open, but when I get it open it stays open.

I have a high cervix (whole middle finger) and I usually seek my cervix before inserting the cup. After that I try to open it and then I put a finger round the edge and feel if my cervix is in the cup. I think I have a dangly cervix also, so it takes some of the capasity of the cup. I know I can have the cup quite long but I would like to have time until I get home to empty it.

Sorry if my English is bad, not my first language. :)
03 July 2016 @ 09:05 pm
Hi ya!
My first post here and looking for some advice!
I'm on my fourth cycle using my mcuk (a) but really REALLY struggling with leakage. Have checked all the obvious things, it's unfolded, feels comfortable, holes aren't clogged etc...

I've had three kiddies and have a super heavy cycle, I'm wondering if I'm just too roomy :-s ? The cup isn't full and over flowing and leakage is much improved on the last (much lighter) days of my period.

Really not sure where to go next with trying to improve the fit, try something else. I really don't want to go back to tampons (changing super plus every two hrs on the heaviest day).

Any help appreciated, sorry if tmi!!

I'm looking to swap my MCUK - I was away on holiday for the weekend without a cup so had to buy this one, but I already have this cup.

Only used once, like new. Comes with drawstring bag. Looking to swap for another cup, ideally the small super Jennie but will look at all offers :)
Current Location: United Kingdom
01 July 2016 @ 11:33 pm
I'm a new cup user, 2nd cycle. I have 5 kids all delivered vaginally and a low cervix. Last cycle went as well as expected- some leakage, some discomfort, mostly going ok. Except this super weird thing where I would occasionally go to remove it and find it way up in my vagina, UPSIDE DOWN. has anyone else ever experienced this?! I'm pretty active but this happens randomly, can't tie it to my yoga of anything.
01 July 2016 @ 11:52 pm
Hi Everyone,

So I have had a cup for close to 7 years now and have lurked but never posted here during that time. For the first time ever I accidentally dropped my diva cup into the toilet- after I pooped. I have washed it with hot water and soap, but don't feel like that is sufficient to sanitize it and use it again. Does anyone have any suggestions on what I can do to make it more usable? I am traveling and have access to a microwave, but that is about it. I can also go to a store to buy something basic, but don't have access to many things currently. Any suggestions will be appreciated!

Thanks all!
30 June 2016 @ 01:51 am
Hi All!

I often have heavy and prolonged periods, I am thinking about an alternative to menstrual pads because I've become allergic to it for some reason. I came across Anigan Evacup and I am getting a lot of positive reviews about it. It is most suggested specially for heavy bleeders like me.

I read that probably I won't be able to use a cup for the first week or so, is that for real? but I feel like it's a much easier alternative to pads/tampons. Right now still trying to get a few insights about menstrual cups before buying it.
About three months ago I decided to make the switch from pads to menstrual cups, I purchased a soft meluna and a compact lily cup. I watched every youtube video on the face of the planet on menstrual cups and read hundreds of blogs but I still can't insert my cup. I spent a whole period trying to get it in by I failed every single time. I begun my period again yesterday and decided to give it another go but I still can't get it right. I am a virgin and I did read the virgins guide to cups but I still can't get it. I've used lube, I've tried lying down, squating and standing. I get about a quarter of the cup in before I either can't get any more in or it pops open and falls out.

Someone please tell me what I'm doing wrong??!!
27 June 2016 @ 02:21 am
Hey everyone,
I've recently started using a cup, Mooncup UK, bought at a Boots store.
I love it so much and been using it for my last 6 maybe 7 cycles and have not had any problems until my last 2 cycles. On my first day when my period started, no problems but then a short time later I was leaking a bit, did the usual checks throughout the day while trying to fix this, such as making sure it was fully open, creating a seal and not full. The leaks continued until the next day where they completely stopped for the rest of my period. Now this has happened again this period, just leaks on the first day only, the rest of the days are not a problem.
I'm finding this hard to understand as I was fine for all my other cycles.
My flow is light to medium so It's not an overfilling issue and it hasn't changed since and stays consistent like that throughout, I have located my cervix and it's quite high, took my entire index finger to find it, I'm aware its position can change but on my first day it was very high, the rest of the days I never checked because I had no leaks. I make sure the cup is open by feeling the perimeter of the rim and that it has created a seal. When I do remove it, there is blood collected so I do know some of it is filling into the cup, some is slightly on the rim, but I'm experiencing leakage on literally the first day only! I was wondering if it's the "residue slobber" people talk about on here but wouldn't that surely still leak away throughout my period?
It's quite annoying as all my other experiences were fine, even when starting out I didn't leak and was thrilled, but now this issue has me quite confused as I've grown comfortable with using a cup and was most afraid of accidents while I was beginning to use one.
If anyone can shed some light/similar experiences on this I'd be grateful! Thanks!
26 June 2016 @ 12:50 pm
I am posting this as a last cry for help from anyone who might have any insight on this issue. Now I have been using menstrual cups for about 3 years at this point, I am no stranger to them. Ive been using a DivaCup for the past three years and I absolutely love them... Except I have an issue. Before I get into the issue, I have some vital background information. I am a circus artist/student who's main discipline is hand balancing. This involves me doing about 4 hours a day of handstand training and more hours in various other acrobatic classes. The issue I am having is with leaking.

Its always fine when I'm not training, which is like less than half the day. But more so on day 2 and 3 of my period(not as bad on other days), I am leaking consistently through my training. Its not the amount to which I bleed, because half the time when I go to the bathroom to empty my cup its like not even half full. Yet I can feel a steady stream just trickling into my underwear! Its almost like every time I come down from a handstand and place myself right side up I feel it leaking. And I just don't understand because trust me, I make sure that damn thing is fully opened and suction cupped to my cervix every time I insert it!

Ive purchased a harder yuuki cup in the past to see if maybe my vaginal muscles squeeze the cup when I am doing my handstand training and that is causing the leakage, but I still leak the same way with the yuuki cup as well. I am very distraught over this issue, because I hate the idea of stuffing cotton up there for a couple hours and allowing bacteria to grow within my vagina. I won't use pads either. I doubt it, but does anyone have any insight on this issue? I know you're technically able to use menstrual cups during physical activity, but I don't think the kind of intense physical activity I do was put to the test. I really really want to keep using menstrual cups because I absolutely adore the idea of them, but I can not keep leaving my coaches periodically (haha) through training to change my cup. Especially because it definitely is not as quick as inserting a tampon.

If anyone has any insight, it would be much appreciated.
Current Mood: annoyedannoyed
26 June 2016 @ 11:54 am
I have pain/irritation with both normal and organic tampons which I believe is because my flow is light and wanted some advice about whether or not a menstrual cup would work (since they can be lubricated) before I splurge and spend the money on one.
I am also living on campus and was wondering if anyone had suggestions for cleaning rumps when I only have access to combined/coed bathroom and laundry facilities.

Actually if anyone had advice for good companies/brands for period undies, cloth pads or menstrual cups in Australia, that would be awesome since the only company that seems decent that I've come across is Moon Pads.
I'm sorry if this question has been asked before, I've been searching on here for a few hours and haven't found any problems quite like mine!

So this is my 4th cycle trying a menstrual cup, my second using my Meluna classic small with the ring-style handle. I'm 23, never been pregnant, and have a fairly small stature. I also have mild vaginismus, which I've had for my entire sex life. I say mild because I can have sex, although not without pain. It's still fun so I bear through it, and within a day or 2 any soreness I've had is gone.

For whatever reason, fingers hurt me way more than much-larger male parts. I think it's the nails that hurt so much (even though mine are quite short.) Because of this, removal is a bit difficult, because trying to insert multiple fingers up around the side of the cup pinches and hurts wayyy too much. My removal method involves wiggle-walking the cup down and then when it starts to feel like it's ripping me in half I have to try to reach in as best I can and fold the cup. It's not as bad as it sounds. I feel confident about removing it, but I'm worried that it's partially responsible for the soreness/burning I feel while wearing the cup.

So here's my actual question: why am I feeling a burning/soreness sensation that seems to get worse the longer I wear the cup? It feels the same as that burning sensation that is common with vaginismus. I had to remove the cup earlier because of it, and I'm wondering if it's from the trauma of insertion/removal or if my muscles tensing around the cup could cause it? If so, why does no one else seem to have this problem?

One other thing I've noticed is that my cup tends to sit at quite a tilt, with the ring stem digging into the left wall of my vagina. My doctor did comment before that I have a tilted cervix, so I'm sure that's why. However, it does make that area especially sore and I was wondering if maybe I should try a different style of stem? I read somewhere on here that the ball stem version of a Meluna is more comfortable than the common style of stem. I've also seen that people turn their cups inside out but there is NO WAY I could get that back out considering my issue with fingers.

This ended up being quite long, so I'll summarize:
Why does my cup feel like its tearing up my vagina when it's just sitting in there?
Does my removal method have something to do with it?
Is the combination of a tilted cervix and a sharp ring stem the cherry on top?
23 June 2016 @ 09:51 pm
Hi All!
I started last month using a diva cup for the first time. I had a pretty good time with it but ran into a few issues. The first couple of days I used it I got it in and open with no problem. The more I used it though the harder it seems to be to get it in place. This month is my second time using it. Yesterday I put it in and got it past my pubic bone but I can't seem to get it any higher no matter what I do. It's sitting really low, like half an inch of the cup plus the stem are hanging outside of my vagina. It's really uncomfortable. I don't think my cervix hangs low because I've never been able to reach it/feel it. So I'm not sure what I can do to boost it higher so it's more comfortable. Do I need a shorter cup? I know the diva cups tend to be on the long side. Help please!!!

21 June 2016 @ 12:47 pm
Hello! I am trying the menstrual cup for the first time (I bought the small IrisCup) and am having lots of trouble inserting it. Specifically, I can't tell if it is my cervix or my pubic bone that is blocking it. If it's my pubic bone, I know I should try to push past it if comfortable; but if it is my cervix, I know the cup should lie below it. But it is super low! Like my first knuckle low. How can I tell the difference between the two? Thanks!

Hi everyone!

This is my second period with my DivaCup, and so far so good.

I am having the issue of understanding if it's open all the way or not though - I insert it with the push down fold, it goes in, and then when it's in, I go to feel if it's open.

The cup doesn't feel round, it feel "flat" to the touch. I tried feeling the rim and having that to pop, but I don't feel anything changing.

What I do is I insert the cup all the way, and the feel around, should I just insert it halfway?

It's been about three years since I purchased my first cup, I visited this community quite a few times during then asking for advice, which helped a lot, thanks :)

But in the end I never got the hang of using a cup (I purchased two, a Lunette, and a Sckoon). Every time I tried it took me so long to remove it that it wasn't practical for me to try use during my period and instead I turned to using reusable pads. The pads are great and i'm never going back to disposables, but I still think a lot about trying to use a cup instead. Today was the latest in my attempts and this time was actually even worse than usual - insertion is now much smoother than it used to be, which is something (altho, note, this time the cup nearly oriented itself sideways until I managed to maneuver the stem back down - but that's a different issue) but removal is a complete pain the ass. It took me about two hours of trying/resting/retrying before I finally got it out. I can stick my finger in to press on the side of the cup but it never breaks the seal, and I never seem to be able to get my index finger and thumb far enough in for me to grab the base - its always me constantly wrestling to grip the stem and tug on it until I can get the cup out by sheer strength alone. This concerns me as I'm afraid one day I'm going to break the stem and then I'll have no way of getting it out. My pubic bone always feels like its in the way of my fingers trying to get in or grip anything - I often end up chafing/irritating myself faster than getting anywhere and i have to rest before trying again. Does anyone else have this problem? It's honestly frustrating and discouraging that I cannot seem to use these cups.
I've used a softcup for a really long time and thought I would rather have a reusable cup, and making this switch may have been a big mistake on my part. I'm currently on day 3 of not being able to remove this thing, it's vacuum sealed itself to my cervix and apparently I have a long, long vagina because I can get half my hand in my junk and still just barely graze the very tippy end of the cup. Also, I appear to have a very pliable, welcoming cervix, because I'm pretty sure at least half of the cup is full of it, not just the offending liquids it's supposed to hold. I can't break the seal and am not able to see a medical professional because the two GYN professionals in the town I live in who have even heard of this product don't have appointments open until NEXT MONTH. One of these clowns is actually my provider but apparently that doesn't matter? Before I either go to an ER, local BDSM fisting expert, or accept that it's never coming out and I eventually fill my uterus with old blood until it explodes, I thought I'd turn to y'all.

Current list of failed techniques:
Relaxing, Breathing - X
Bearing Down in all recommended positions - X
Keigels - X
Warm Bath - X
Spoons - X
Crochet Hooks - X
Booze and Relaxing Music - X

I would just wait for it to fill up and break it's own seal but it leaks out blood every time I pee so that doesn't seem to be the progress I'd want to be making. Besides, the stem is lodged into my pubic bone. And apparently I have my own gravity, because over the last few days it's only made its way UP, not down. This is NOT a "dry run," (not sure why anyone would try that, honestly) I am not shy around my lady parts, I've used pretty much everything else with fine results.

This is probably the most ridiculous thing I've ever written.

UPDATE: It's OUT! My gynecologist finally seemed to get the message and had me come in today so he could extract the offending interloper. Even with those long long clippy/forceps-y things, a speculum and an assistant, it was an effort. His opinion is that it would have been nearly impossible for me to get this out on my own. Here's what happened: In his opinion, the model 2 size was too big. Even though I've had a kid, my parts are pretty small and long (knowing this, I had an instinct to get the smaller size, but didn't listen to my inner voice) so I didn't really have the inner capacity for the top of the ring to fully open in my vagina. It worked its way up to above my pubic bone, where it had more room to expand. Then, it filled like a balloon. In my understanding, it expanded to the full capacity of the wider area above my pubic bone to my cervix. That, in cooperation with a fairly decently suctioned death grip on my aforementioned cervix, was what caused the problem.
Probably, with a REALLY tight grip on the stem and a fair amount of lubrication, I may have had a shot, but doing this on my own with my limited range of reach made it pretty unlikely I'd have succeeded solo.

So here's the lesson (because I did want to learn from it so that one day I can try again): Research the options, specs and features between the different cups and try to match as best as one can based on what we know about our own bodies.

Thanks for being there, folks, it was a comfort in a weird and difficult time.
13 June 2016 @ 01:03 pm
I am a relatively new cup user. I have been happy with my current cup but am pretty sure there is something better out there for me! I currently use a large Menstrocup.

I am 46 with children. My flow is normal/heavy, and my cervix is high with a tendency to sit to the side during my period. I am able to insert the cup and get it open with no problem (usually) but find that it leaks on my heavier days. I'm wondering if a firmer cup with a larger diameter would work better? I think upon research that the menstrocup is on the softer side. I also feel like that at times my cervix wants to sit to the outside of the cup. On the leaky days, the cup is not overfull.

Any suggestions? I have been researching the super jennie, meluna classic xl, and yuuki.
13 June 2016 @ 12:59 am
Hi everyone! Now so long ago, I asked for any happy FemmyCycle users here. I did not get many answers, but I read a lot of positive reviews on Amazon and decided to try it anyway. I was really annoyed with leaks and running to the shower every couple of hours with my LadyCup. Every time it leaked I did not know whether the cup was full, or my cervix was dangly and took some space in the cup, or I inserted it wrong, or I was just too wide after giving birth...

So far, I've been using my new FemmyCycle Low Cervix for three days, and I'm really satisfied with it! I had a couple of incidents, but they clearly meant something went wrong upon insertion. After that, I reinserted the cup and wore it without any leaks for the rest of the day. I also slept through two nights without any leaks.

I expected some learning curve with this cup due to its unusual shape and absence of holes. My first attempts were ridiculous: I could not make the cup unfold inside me! I tried to insert it a few times using the C-fold, and then just put it off in frustration. Later, I read some more reviews and tips and tried the punch-down fold. This worked better. With some more practice, I got to inserting the FemmyCycle as quickly as the LadyCup. I stick with the punch-down fold with the opening of the fold towards my rectum. With this, it opens fairly well and catches enough air inside, so even though the cup is not fully open, I don't feel any suction.

I hope I'll stay as happy with my new cup as I am now. I'll post an update if something changes.